The ADHD Kids Can Thrive Podcast

If your child looks “fine” at school but falls apart at home, melts down over everyday expectations (homework, transitions, getting out the door), or is sliding into school refusal, this episode will help you make sense of what might be going on, especially when autism, AuDHD, and anxiety are part of the picture.

On this episode of The ADHD Kids Can Thrive Podcast, host Kate Brownfield sits down with Diane Gould, founder of PDA North America and co-author of Navigating PDA in America, for a grounded, parent-friendly conversation about Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) (often reframed as a Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). Diane explains why PDA is best understood through a nervous system lens (not “defiance”), why many traditional behavior plans can backfire, and what actually helps kids who experience everyday demands as a threat response.

This episode is especially helpful if you’ve heard “PDA” mentioned in an evaluation, therapy, or online, and you’re trying to understand what’s real, what’s misunderstood, and what supports are most effective at home and at school.

In this episode, we cover:

What PDA is and how the definition has evolved (and why there’s still debate)

Why PDA often overlaps with autism and/or ADHD and why it’s frequently missed or mislabeled

PDA vs. ODD: how “oppositional” behavior can look similar on the surface but be driven by something very different underneath

The common pattern of masking at school and meltdowns or shutdowns at home, and why parents are often told, “They’re an angel here.”

Why school refusal is so common for PDA kids (and what Diane is seeing in families today)

Why rewards, consequences, sticker charts, strict routines, and compliance-based strategies often don’t work and what to try instead

The role of relationship, trust, and co-regulation, especially as kids get older and school support gets more fragmented

Practical ways parents can reduce stress, protect the nervous system, and support learning without crushing autonomy

What PDA can look like in adulthood and why support systems and interdependence matter

Resources mentioned

PDA North America (website): https://pdanorthamerica.org/

Diane Gould: https://dianegouldtherapy.com/
Book: Navigating PDA in America (Diane Gould & Ruth Fidler): Amazon Link

Kate / ADHD Kids Can Thrive: https://adhdkidscanthrive.com/

 

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If you’re noticing sports betting, fantasy leagues, or “just for fun” gambling creeping into your teen or young adult’s world, especially with ADHD in the mix, this episode is an important listen. Modern betting is fast, private, and built for dopamine… and for some ADHD brains, that combination can become a slippery slope.

Host Kate Brownfield sits down with Saul Malek, an emerging voice on the modern gambling landscape, for a candid conversation about how gambling addiction can escalate quickly, why kids with ADHD may be more vulnerable, and what parents can do to support their child without enabling. Saul shares his personal story: diagnosed with ADHD at age four, pulled in through fantasy sports, and how the shift to digital betting and easy credit accelerated everything, costing him sleep, money, relationships, and nearly his life. Today, he’s been abstinent for more than 5 years and on a mission to educate families and communities.

In this episode, we cover:

Why ADHD can increase risk for addiction (impulsivity, stimulation-seeking, time blindness)

How sports betting evolves from “fun” to compulsion, especially when it’s accessible 24/7

The role of secrecy, shame, and chasing losses (and what it can look like at home)

What helped Saul recover: structure, community, accountability, and ongoing support

How parents can set boundaries, offer support, and avoid enabling, especially with older teens/young adults

Where to start if you’re concerned: meetings, specialized therapy, and reputable resources

Connect to Saul Malek: https://www.saulmalek.com/

Resources mentioned: Gamblers Anonymous (in-person + virtual), gamblersinrecovery.com, and the National Council on Problem Gambling

 
Connect with Kate, certified ADHD/Executive Function Parent Coach: ADHDKidsCanThrive.com 
 
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If reading turns into tears, avoidance, or exhaustion in your home, this episode offers a fresh, practical angle: instead of forcing the brain to adjust to the text, what if the text adjusted to your child?

Host Kate Brownfield sits down with Diane Gutierrez (co-founder of Cognition Labs and a mom in a neurodiverse family) for a two-part conversation on reducing reading strain for dyslexia/visual-perceptual differences, and on real-life parenting strategies for ADHD families. Diane shares how adjustable text tools can lower cognitive load and improve comprehension, plus the lived wisdom that helped her family navigate school, stress, mental health, and the long haul of raising kids with ADHD and dyslexia.

In this episode, we cover:

Why “the text should adjust to us” (and how that supports comprehension + reduces fatigue)

How Cognition Labs transforms books, PDFs, notes, and scanned images with 15+ adjustable settings

Tools families use most: syllabication support, confusable-letter fixes (b/d/p/q), and visual settings that reduce strain

Why these supports may help kids with ADHD, by reducing cognitive load during reading

Parenting wisdom from a home where ADHD affects nearly everyone: meaning over pressure, consistency over perfection, rest as a requirement

When to consider therapy/coaching support and why it’s okay to switch if it’s not the right fit

Advocacy and testing: how understanding a child’s brain can change the path forward

Resources mentioned: Cognition Labs: https://www.cognitionlabs.com/
Connect with Kate, certified ADHD/Executive Function Parent Coach: ADHDKidsCanThrive.com | Coaching inquiries: https://adhdkidscanthrive.com/appointment/

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If you’ve ever wondered whether there are nutrition-based supports to consider when ADHD brings big swings in mood, sleep, cravings, irritability, or focus, especially when medication isn’t preferred, isn’t available, or you’re looking for complementary tools, this episode offers a practical, hopeful starting point.

Host Kate Brownfield sits down with Julia Ross, M.A., N.N.T.S., best-selling author of The Mood Cure, for a grounded conversation about nutritional psychiatry and the role targeted nutrients (including amino acids) may play in supporting attention, stress, sleep, and emotional regulation.
 
In this episode, we cover:

Why foundational nutrition (especially steady fuel + breakfast) can matter for mood, attention, and regulation

How Julia’s work in addiction recovery led her toward nutrient therapy and “brain chemistry” support

The amino acids discussed in The Mood Cure and how they’re framed as potential supports for stress, sleep, cravings, and focus (with a strong emphasis on going slowly and listening to the body)

Why blood sugar dips (hypoglycemia) can show up as irritability, anxiety, “hangry” meltdowns, and intense sugar cravings, especially after school

How to think about trialing changes cautiously, including the importance of collaborating with a licensed clinician (especially for kids and anyone on medication)

Why parents deserve support too, because caregiver stress and sleep matter in the whole family system

Resources mentioned:
JuliaRossCures.com
 

Important note: This episode is educational and is not medical advice. Always consult a licensed clinician before starting supplements or making medication changes, especially for children.

Connect with Kate, certified ADHD/Executive Function Parent Coach |Whole Person Approach:  ADHDKidsCanThrive.com
 
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Host & Guest: Kate Brownfield, Certified Whole Person & ADHD Parent Coach

Episode Description

Hi, it’s Kate Brownfield from ADHDKidsCanThrive.com. In this solo episode, I’m talking directly to you, the parent who wants the holidays to feel a little less chaotic and a lot more grounded for your ADHD child and your family.

The holidays can be gorgeous and fun… and they can also be really hard. Extra noise, broken routines, travel, sugar, relatives, expectations, it all adds up, especially for a sensitive ADHD nervous system (yours and your child’s). In this conversation, I walk you through simple, doable ways to lower the volume on holiday overwhelm and build a plan that actually protects everyone’s capacity.

My hope is that this episode feels like a steady hand on your shoulder and gives you a few concrete, compassionate tools you can start using right away.

In this episode, we talk about:

Why holidays feel “louder” for ADHD families
How excitement, uncertainty, and social demands overstimulate ADHD nervous systems and why that’s not a parenting failure.

Three daily anchors to protect regulation
A simple “map the day” framework that protects sleep, screens, and movement without turning your home into a military schedule.

Getting extended family on the same page (without drama)
How to kindly give relatives a clear role in a cozy connection, rather than acting as behavior police, and use short, simple limits with your child.

Making the day visible for your ADHD child
Using checklists, visual schedules, and quick previews helps your child know what’s coming and what’s expected versus what's unexpected.

The 60-second spike reset for you and your child
A quick reset you can use when emotions spike: one long breath, one next step, one tiny, concrete choice.

Planning for expected fidgeting and big feelings
How to meet your child where they are developmentally, and give them a plan for restlessness, boredom, or sibling conflict.

If You Need More Support
If you’re heading into a hard season or you want a clearer plan, you can always find me at ADHDKidsCanThrive.com for education, coaching, and tools to support your ADHD child and your family.

If this episode is helpful, please share it with another parent who might need a little steadiness and support this holiday season.

Wishing you and your ADHD kiddo a warm, gentle, and truly happy holiday.