What No One Told You Would Change Your Relationship After Having a Baby with Rachel Shepard Ohta
This episode explores how having a baby reshapes a couple’s relationship in ways few anticipate, from sleep deprivation and shifting roles to unexpected emotional triggers. Rachel shares her own experiences of disconnection, especially after her second child, and normalizes the challenges couples face when intimacy and teamwork take a hit. She emphasizes adjusting expectations, understanding temperament differences, and remembering that both partners and children are navigating new needs and patterns.
Colter, Lauren, and Rachel talk about:
- Shift in roles & teamwork
- Pressure & expectations
- Sleep deprivation
- Kids’ needs first
- Temperament & triggers
- Connection & reassurance
Where to Find Rachel
- Hey Sleepy Baby Instagram
- Hey Sleepy Dad Instagram
- Website
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Fear of Rejection
Fear of rejection is one of the biggest hurdles in dating, often holding people back from putting themselves out there or forming deeper connections. In this episode, we unpack where this fear comes from, how it ties into past experiences and self-worth, and why rejection is not as personal as it feels. We also share practical ways to shift your perspective, build resilience, and approach dating with more openness and confidence.
They talk about topics such as:
- Roots of rejection fear (childhood, past relationships)
- Rejection ≠ personal worth
- How fear leads to avoidance or self-sabotage
- Reframing rejection as redirection
- Building confidence & resilience
- and more!
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Fear of Intimacy
This episode unpacks the fear of intimacy—why closeness can feel good yet terrifying at the same time. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren explore how fear of intimacy shows up in subtle and obvious ways, from ghosting and over-picking flaws to struggling with vulnerability in relationships. They also highlight how childhood experiences, trauma, and personal wiring shape this fear, and offer hope that with curiosity, compassion, and therapy, people can learn to build deeper connections.
They talk about topics such as:
- Vulnerability vs. dumping
- Signs of fear
- Roots of fear
- Negotiation & sacrifice
- Dating dynamics
- And more!
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Navigating Friendship Conflict
This episode dives into the often-overlooked complexities of friendship conflict and breakups, highlighting that friendships can be just as emotionally significant—and challenging—as romantic relationships. The hosts discuss common causes of tension, from mismatched expectations and life transitions to breaches of trust, unmet needs, and changes in values. They share strategies for addressing disconnection with curiosity and honesty, while also giving permission to let certain friendships fade when they no longer align.
Colter, Cayla, and Lauren talk about topics such as:
- Friendships as attachments
- Common reasons for tension
- Friendship pursuer/withdrawer dynamics
- Healthy repair
- And more!
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Sensory Profiles & Sexual Intimacy w/ Dr. Sarah Anderson
In this episode, Dr. Sarah Anderson returns to explore how sensory processing patterns impact physical and sexual intimacy. The hosts use a creative "readiness for sex" scale to frame how sensory input—like lighting, texture, sound, and smell—can act as either accelerators or brakes for sexual connection. By understanding your own and your partner’s sensory profile, couples can communicate better, reduce misunderstandings, and intentionally create more satisfying intimate experiences.
Colter, Lauren and Sarah talk about:
The Eight Senses & Sexual Intimacy
Brakes vs. Accelerators
Sensory Preferences are Individualized
Practical Tools & Ideas
Communication is Central
And More!
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Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them each week as they come with a jam packed agenda to help you thrive in your relationships.
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