This week on Brolapse, Ryan James sits down with Sofftpaw for a conversation that goes far beyond a typical guest interview.
Sofftpaw is the founder of the Fist Council — a nationwide forum made up of leaders from over 35 fisting clubs and organizations. What started as a simple idea—connecting event organizers—has evolved into a powerful network focused on collaboration, education, and building safer, more sustainable spaces for the community.
The episode begins with Sofftpaw’s personal journey into fisting, from a post-pandemic “guilty pleasure” to a defining part of his life. With guidance from mentors he calls his “fisting dads,” he developed a structured, methodical approach rooted in anatomy, training, and intention—something he believes many newcomers are missing.
From there, the conversation expands into how the Fist Council was formed: not as a “shadowy organization,” but as a grassroots collaboration between organizers who wanted to share knowledge instead of compete. Together, they exchange best practices, support new club founders, and work toward creating consistent standards for safety, consent, and event production across cities.
Ryan and Sofftpaw also dive into the evolution of the modern fisting scene—from the post-COVID boom in participation to the growing visibility of fisting within larger kink spaces like IML. They explore the diversity of club models, the importance of community, and how chosen family often emerges from shared experience.
The episode closes on a deeper note, examining how kink intersects with mental health, neurodivergence, rejection sensitivity, and personal growth. At its core, this conversation isn’t just about fisting—it’s about belonging, connection, and what happens when a community learns how to build itself from the inside out.
🎙️ A thoughtful, funny, and unexpectedly emotional episode that captures a pivotal moment in the evolution of the scene.
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