Healthy Love & Money: Financial Therapy, Intimacy, Conflict & Communication for Couples

Ed sits down with financial therapist Haylie Castillo, whose powerful story bridges finance, trauma healing, and liberation work. Haylie opens up about her path from corporate finance to financial therapy, revealing how deconstructing her faith, motherhood, and her relationship with power shaped her approach to money and meaning. Together, Ed and Haylie unpack how systems, pleasure, and play influence our money stories, and how embracing joy can be a radical act of financial freedom.Key Takeaways:• What role does pleasure play in reshaping our relationship with money?• How can decolonizing and liberation-centered therapy transform financial healing?• Why is storytelling such a powerful tool for financial and emotional growth?Key Timestamps:(00:00) - MLM And Disempowerment(10:00) - Navigating Corporate Finance(12:00) - Motherhood And Awakening(17:00) - Discovering Financial Therapy(22:00) - Taking Up Space(25:00) - Storytelling And Self-Healing(28:00) - Pleasure And Play With Money(34:00) - Parallels With Sex And Food(39:00) - Healing Through Relationship(41:00) - Ritual And CommunityKey Topics Discussed:Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Therapy, Money And Trauma, Liberation-Centered Healing, Pleasure And Money, Decolonizing WealthMentions:Website: https://www.castillofinancialtherapy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/c_financial_therapy/ More of Healthy Love & Money:Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/Contact me at [email protected] Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

What if the missing link in your healing journey was trauma, and no one ever told you? In this eye-opening episode, Ed Coambs sits down with renowned trauma therapist Lou Lebentz for a deeply moving and transformative conversation. Together, they uncover the hidden layers of trauma that shape our lives, from the subtle emotional imprints of childhood to intergenerational pain and societal systems of shame and scarcity. Lou shares her personal journey through breakdown, financial extremes, and profound healing, leading to the creation of her pioneering program, The Voyage. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand how unresolved trauma shows up in relationships, mental health, and even your financial behaviors and how true healing is not just possible, but your birthright. Key Takeaways:• How can healing through programs like The Voyage help individuals move from survival to thriving?• What role do our childhood experiences and inherited beliefs play in how we relate to money and self-worth?• How does trauma—beyond just major events—shape our emotional, relational, and financial lives? Key Timestamps:(00:00) - Discovering trauma in addiction therapy settings(05:00) - Four aspects of trauma explained(08:30) - How classism and societal systems create trauma(10:00) - Internalizing parental fears and money beliefs(13:00) - The importance of addressing past, present, and future in healing(16:00) - The role of therapy and coaching in trauma recovery(19:00) - Understanding parts work: adult, wounded, and adapted selves(23:00) - How childhood money experiences shape financial behaviors(37:00) - Integrating soul, vision, and purpose in healing(38:00) - Thriving after trauma as a birthright Key Topics Discussed:Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Trauma recovery program, Inner child healing, Financial trauma therapy, Parts work psychology, Emotional healing journey Mentions:Website: https://loulebentz.com/ LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/loulebentz Mentions: The VoyageMore of Healthy Love & Money:Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/Contact me at [email protected] Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed opens up about the deeply personal journey of buying a lake house with his wife, a dream years in the making that brought both joy and tension. Through raw reflection, Ed explores how financial decisions often uncover deeper emotional layers in relationships, revealing the power of vulnerability, trust, and emotional awareness. He shares how understanding attachment styles, embracing emotional honesty, and seeking guidance can transform financial conflict into deeper intimacy. This episode invites you to reflect on your own dreams, how you communicate them with your partners, and how shared meaning can strengthen love and money alike.Key Takeaways:• How can couples navigate emotional differences when pursuing shared financial dreams?• What role do attachment styles play in how partners communicate about money and security?• How can slowing down and seeking guidance turn financial conflict into deeper connection?Key Timestamps:(00:00) - Dream Meets Resistance(05:00) - The Turning Point(07:00) - Attachment And Awareness(10:00) - Meaning Behind Dreams(12:00) - Guidance And Growth(14:00) - Lessons From The LakehouseKey Topics Discussed:Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for CouplesMore of Healthy Love & Money:Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/Contact me at [email protected] Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

What happens when deep healing meets financial planning? Lindsay Troxell, business coach, certified life planner, and child-free entrepreneur, joins Ed to explore the profound intersections of money, identity, trauma, and relationships. Together, they unravel Lindsay’s personal journey through financial betrayal, her healing process, and the creation of a thriving life and business alongside her partner, Corey. From grounding practices to quarterly tax triggers, this episode is a masterclass in emotional resilience, authentic partnership, and what it means to truly thrive financially and emotionally. Key Takeaways:• How do our childhood experiences and past traumas shape our relationship with money and financial decision-making?• What does true financial intimacy look like in a romantic partnership, especially when personalities and money stories differ?• How can somatic practices and identity work support personal healing and professional growth for purpose-driven entrepreneurs?Key Timestamps:(00:00) - Integrating wealth, health, and life planning(08:00) - From financial crisis to empowerment(12:00) - Launching a values-based RIA(14:00) - Navigating relationship dynamics with money(16:00) -Emotional safety and personal growth(20:00) - Childhood money stories and triggers(23:00) - Somatic tools for nervous system healing(26:00) - Communication and deep financial intimacy(29:00) - Trauma work and psychedelics in healing(32:00) - The human experience of worth and fearKey Topics Discussed:Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for CouplesMentions:Website: https://www.discretionaryinc.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindsaytroxell More of Healthy Love & Money:Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/Contact me at [email protected] Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

What if the future of financial planning isn't in the numbers—but in the emotions behind them? In this episode, Ed sits down with Brendan Frazier—host of The Human Side of Money podcast and Chief Behavioral Officer at RFG Advisory—to explore why the most meaningful conversations about money aren’t about returns or budgets…they're about people. With deep insight into the psychology of money, Brendan shares why technology may soon outpace advisors on the technical front—and why human connection is the irreplaceable advantage. Whether you’re a couple trying to get on the same financial page, a planner aiming to deepen client relationships, or someone who just wants to feel seen in your money journey, this conversation is your invitation to shift from transactions to transformation. This is the episode you didn’t know you needed—but won’t stop thinking about. Key Takeaways:• How is the growing role of psychology reshaping the future of financial planning, especially in light of advancing technology and AI?• What challenges do financial advisors face when trying to help clients take meaningful action, and how can understanding human behavior improve outcomes?• Why are empathy and mutual understanding between partners crucial for navigating money conversations in relationships?Key Timestamps: (00:00) – The Emergence of Psychology in Financial Planning (03:00) – Technology's Role in Financial Advising (06:00) – The Human Side of Financial Planning (08:00) – Trust and Vulnerability in Client Relationships (10:00) – The Psychology of Spending and Understanding Behavior (17:00) – Financial Trade-Offs and Shared Decision-Making (19:00) – Automation and Willpower in Money Management (22:00) – When Knowing What to Do Isn't Enough (27:00) – Bridging the Financial Knowledge Gap Between Partners (35:00) – Taking Responsibility in RelationshipsKey Topics Discussed:Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Human side of money, Psychology and financial planning, Behavioral finance, Technology and financial advising, Financial advisor client relationships, Brendan FrazierMentions:Website: https://rfgadvisory.com/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendanfrazier?original_referer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F Mentions: Human Side of Money PodcastMore of Healthy Love & Money:Redefine your relationship with money and each other: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/Ed’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/healthyloveandmoney/Contact me at [email protected] Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.