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A woman in a new relationship isn't sure this one's going to work out. He's a great guy, but the sex is lacking because his penis is too small for her. Is there a way to learn to enjoy the sex eventually?

Here's a question for you: "How long til anal?" After seeing Heated Rivalry, a married man and his wife are exploring anal sex. They are taking their sweet time, but he wonders how long they should expect it to take before it becomes comfortable for them both. (Who's doing whom? He never says!) 

On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Natalie Davis. She is the author "Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory" and the editor of the online publication "Polyamory Today." They talk about her journey from PUD to enthusiastic advocate for open relationships.

Last week, a woman wondered how many *other* women could experience 60-70 orgasms, like she does. This week, we close with a man who "worries" that he's having SO MUCH SEX that he's coming too much. Should he call 911?

People. Really?

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, a-poly-gist (get it?) author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bisexuality to butt sex, sexting to S&M and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Have you ever wanted to be a fly on the wall during a MFM threeway?

Listen in as the F tells the tale. How did she set it up? What was it like when they first met and shook hands? Who did who and where? Which one had a food sensitivity? You’ll have to listen to find out.

Do you have a ribald, salacious story of sexual experimentation? Or maybe you found yourself in an awkward, unpleasant UNsexy situation. Tell us anyway! Write it up and send it in to [email protected].

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A kinky, submissive woman's last relationship went down in flames when her dom insisted on a power exchange, all-the-damn-time lifestyle. She is raising kids and caring for her sick father. She doesn't have time for this kind of commitment. How can she set reasonable boundaries in the future?

A married man despairs that he'll never kiss his wife again. Smooching is central to his experience of sexual pleasure, and the wife is repulsed by it. Sounds grim.

Speaking of kissing, on the Magnum, it's a "What You Got?" with Dr. Matilda Brindle. The evolutionary biologist recently published a paper looking at whether early primates or even Neanderthals kissed. They also talk about kink in the animal kingdom, which leads to the story of one very freaky monkey. Do not miss this. Pay attention.

And, a woman humble-braggingly wonders if OTHER women come 60-70 times per session she like does.

72,73, 74...

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to multiple orgasms, trans rights to asexuality and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since Neanderthals were kissing up on peeps.

Meet Trina, who indulged her dom's desire. Did she love it? Did she hate it?

Listen and learn.

Did YOU try something new to you, and want us know about it? Write it up and send it in to [email protected].

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Naturally, on this sex and relationship podcast, many of you are thinking about the Epstein files. One caller used to be a dom/daddy for younger women who sought him out and enjoyed themselves. Still he feels guilty. And another caller is having their libido crash when they read the news.

Meanwhile a straight man has discovered a bizarre and rare disorder: he goes limp when he has to put a condom on. Somebody make a documentary about this guy!

On the Magnum, a trans woman is grappling with the anger she feels at cis and non-binary people. Dan brings on trans, queer comedian and writer Hayden Johnson, to offer advice and to commiserate. They talk about how being a trans woman forces you to confront misogyny, the jarring difference in how people treat you when you present as a man vs. a woman, and how fun it is to mess with people's heads onstage as a trans comic.

And, a 34 year-old woman is leaving her abusive husband. She knows it's the right thing to do, but worries she won't get another shot at marriage and family. She asks for a pep talk from Dan Savage, and from YOU.

Leave her an inspiring comment!

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.