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Couples Counseling For Parents

Dr. Stephen Mitchell and Erin Mitchell, MACP
Couples Counseling For Parents
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  • Why Quid Pro Quo Love Fails and What Builds Trust Instead
    Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.We use our boys’ everyday squabbles as a mirror for adult dynamics: both sides telling true events, but interpreting the events completely different. From there, we lay out three lessons that change the tone of a relationship. First, love isn’t a contract (quid pro quo); connection can’t be leveraged without corroding trust. Second, assume your partner’s best and verify the worst with clear questions instead of silent verdicts. Third, practice empathy with accountability—context matters, and so do boundaries. Get your copy or audiobook of Too Tired to Fight today!: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/059371427XWant some personalized help. Schedule a free coaching consultation here: https://calendly.com/ccfp/meet-the-mitchells
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  • When Stress Hijacks Love: Turning Conflict into Connection for Parents
    Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.When stress shows up in a relationship, it rarely says its name. We dive into the real culprit—nervous system activation—and show how it secretly drives the shutdown–pursuit loop that so many parents know too well.Through the story of Leah and Justine, two working parents navigating new routines and old expectations, we break down the two common stress strategies: going internal to feel safe or going external to find safety. You’ll hear how those protective moves collide—why silence can feel like abandonment, why pressing for resolution can feel like attack—and how caregiving history informs these patterns. Most importantly, we share a usable plan: opposite action. If you tend to shut down, reach outward and name your inner state. If you tend to pursue, pause and turn inward before you speak. These small, honest moves lower threat, reduce uncertainty, and open the door to empathy and repair.The takeaway isn’t to eliminate stress; it’s to stop letting stress run the conversation. Change the pattern and you change the relationship—one moment of choice at a time.If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who wants to turn conflict into connection, and leave a quick rating so more parents can find these tools. Want more support? Get your copy or audiobook of Too Tired to Fight today!: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/059371427XWant some personalized help. Schedule a free coaching consultation here: https://calendly.com/ccfp/meet-the-mitchells
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  • Are You a Couple That Never Fights? Why That’s A Problem
    Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.“We never fight” sounds peaceful, but is it actually connection—or quiet disconnection in disguise? We open up about a small argument over wedding dishes that revealed a much bigger truth: real intimacy requires honest engagement, not appeasing or winning. When one of us began to withdraw and the other escalated, the moment turned on a single request—“engage me so I know I matter.” From there, we unpack how boundaries, attachment styles, and the window of tolerance shape what happens between two people under stress.Across this conversation, we explore why conflict is necessary for a healthy relationship, especially for parents managing constant fatigue and decision overload. We trace how childhood lessons teach us to either retreat or pursue and how those moves show up as “never fighting” or constant protest. You’ll learn the difference between withdrawal and appeasing (and why both feel like abandonment), how to replace defensiveness with curiosity, and the simple structure we use to turn friction into understanding. We also dig into avoidant and preoccupied attachment patterns and why resentment fades when both partners feel heard—even if the final choice doesn’t go their way.By the end, you’ll have a practical lens for navigating everyday disagreements—like picking dishes—that carry deeper meaning about value, respect, and belonging. If you’re ready to shift from the same old arguments into real connection, press play and practice the two-part commitment of engagement: share yourself clearly and listen like your partner matters. If this resonates, follow the show, leave a rating, and share this episode with someone who thinks “no fights” equals “we’re fine.” Your relationship deserves more than survival mode—subscribe and help us grow this community of connected couples.Get your copy or audiobook of Too Tired to Fight today!: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/059371427XWant some personalized help. Schedule a free coaching consultation here: https://calendly.com/ccfp/meet-the-mitchells
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  • Beyond Date Night: Why Physical Closeness and Emotional Responsiveness Matter
    Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.Feeling disconnected from your partner despite regular date nights and check-ins? You're not alone. This raw, insightful episode dives into one of the most common relationship challenges parents face: that persistent feeling that something's missing in your connection.Through the relatable story of Joy and Grant, we unpack why simply spending time together doesn't automatically create meaningful connection. The problem isn't your busy schedule—it's understanding what connection truly means on a neurobiological level. Connection requires both physical closeness and emotional responsiveness, creating what attachment theory calls a "safe haven" and "secure base." These aren't just theoretical concepts but deeply human needs that follow us into adulthood and our romantic relationships.We reveal why conflict often emerges from disconnection—one partner pushes for change while the other feels criticized for not doing enough. This "upshifting" versus "downshifting" dynamic creates misunderstanding rather than closeness. The breakthrough comes in recognizing that small, consistent acts matter more than grand gestures or occasional date nights. When you discover what specific actions make your partner feel truly seen and responded to, you can transform everyday moments into powerful connection points.Ready to feel closer? Listen and we'll tell you how. Get your copy or audiobook of Too Tired to Fight today!: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/059371427XWant some personalized help. Schedule a free coaching consultation here: https://calendly.com/ccfp/meet-the-mitchells
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  • The Map to Relationship Renewal: Mindfulness Over Negativity
    Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.Have you ever caught yourself thinking that all your relationship problems are your partner's fault? What if your perspective is actually contributing to the conflict cycle?When we repeatedly focus on negative thoughts about our relationships, those patterns become our default way of seeing our partners. This isn't about blame or shame – it's about understanding how our nervous systems work under stress. As parents juggling countless responsibilities, stress naturally narrows our perspective, putting us in survival mode where we see threats everywhere – even from the person we love most.The fascinating truth about negative mindsets is that once established, they're remarkably efficient at finding supporting evidence. If I believe my partner doesn't value family time, I'll notice every instance when they're distracted while completely overlooking moments of engagement. It's not manipulation; it's how our brains work when trying to protect us from perceived threats.But there's hope through mindfulness. By consciously shifting our attention to three key questions, we can break free from these cycles: Do I fundamentally trust my partner's love and intentions? What is genuinely true about them beyond our conflicts? What do I like about them as a person, partner, and parent? This isn't about ignoring problems – it's about seeing the complete picture instead of just the negative frame.The most transformative relationships are built on these small, daily choices to see each other fully. When we can joke about our negative patterns and repair quickly after conflicts, we create the depth and connection we've always wanted. Your mindset matters in your relationship – and mindfully choosing to shift from negativity to a balanced perspective might be the most powerful change you can make.Take a moment today to practice seeing your partner through a wider lens. What might change if you approached your next conversation with curiosity instead of negativity?Get your copy or audiobook of Too Tired to Fight today!: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/059371427XWant some personalized help. Schedule a free coaching consultation here: https://calendly.com/ccfp/meet-the-mitchells
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