Back in episode 38, we discussed some changes with our plans for 2019. But just how much did those changes affect our progress on our 2019 goals? In this week's episode, we take you through each of our joint goals & action steps and grade our progress over the last quarter. Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: Our 2019 started off really strong, but come February we were thrown a major curveballs The effects of this curveball on our work habits Our progress towards our 2019 goals Complete 2 consulting or philanthropy projects Speak together 4 times Build social media presence Grow email list to 1,000 subscribers Stay consistent with our podcast Blog every week Host online course Write book
EP 39: We Re-Do Dreams
In this episode of I Do, We Do , we re-do one of most popular episodes. We each share and discuss 10 new dreams and work them out together in order to add to our official combined Dream List. We love dreaming and setting goals. Hopefully hearing us go through this process will show you just how simple it is. What We Talked About in this Episode: We each share and discuss our 10 dreams Ashley’s Dream List See the Northern lights Take a trip with both sets of parents... and pick up the tab Take an immersion trip into a cultural trip (like SBE) Learn Spanish Make a large philanthropic gift somewhere Own property = (i.e. owning a building downtown, a chunk of land, etc.) Have an impact on education policy; provide a lot of testimony like policy change locally, at the state, or national level Speak to a large group of people (thousands) Make a career change for the challenge Host an international exchange student Billy’s Dream List Live in Center City Philadelphia Go to the Kentucky Derby Live in another country Write a novel (wrote 4 business leadership related books) Star in a musical Own a Philly sports team Make a 6 figure donation Play a basketball game in the Palestra arena in Philadelphia Have a beer with Chase Utley Run for political office “We talk a lot about our problems, we complain a lot about our problems, but rarely will people step up and do something to put a stop that problem. Added to Combined Dream List Take a vacation with both sets parents... and pick up the tab Spend a significant amount of time in another country to culturally immerse ourselves See the northern lights Go to Kentucky Derby Learn Spanish Speak to a large crowd together → turn into a goal Make a 6 figure gift House an international student “Have an open-mind. Be excited for your partner’s dreams. Push them. It’s okay to question them a little bit, but don’t tear them down right away.” Ashley is motivated by Will Smith’s recent YouTube video, because he preaches the importance of how you should do things that scare you so that you’ll grow “If you can be disciplined and write down everything you truly want to do and discuss it with your partner, it leads to a lot of “ah-hah” moments.” “It’s not about whether you need more of in life, because you should be happy with who you are and where you are. This is about whether or not you want something more and if you want more then you really are searching for growth.”
EP 38: Change of Plans
We put together our best plan ever for 2019. We got off to a great start crossing off action items for our most important goals. We were holding each other accountable. We were communicating. We were collaborating. We knew for sure 2019 was our year. And then our plans changed. In this episode, we share what happened to change our plans for 2019. This is a must listen episode!
EP 37: We Re-Do Goal Setting
In this episode, we do a re-do of one of our most popular episodes. Goal Setting! We share why we set goals and how. We believe setting goals together ensures that we are always growing together rather than apart. Billy has a long history with goal setting. Ashley drank the kool-aid and together we consider setting and achieving goals one of our greatest and most important collabs. Download a free goal setting lesson for partners at . Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: Billy went through his first goal setting program when he was just four-years-old He has continued learning about goal setting and teaching others about the subject ever since Paul J. Meyer, the founder of the personal development industry said, “If you are not making the progress you would like to make and are capable of making, it is simply because your goals are not clearly defined.” Goals bring out the best in us. Ashley shares the story of Billy asking her about her goals and sharing his goals when they first met Some companions from Billy’s past were turned off by this, but Ashley was intrigued and of course stuck around to learn more Ashley shares more about her own personal thoughts on goal setting and how they have changed with Billy Ashley is go with the flow, Billy is the planner But we both enjoy setting goals. The goal setting process begins with a Dream List This is how we got started goal setting together and they continue adding to their list every year. A Dream List is exactly what it sounds like. Some call it a bucket list. This is simply all the things you want to do in your life together. Next comes creating a short list of goals - no more than 10 We do this every year as well. We start by setting individual goals and then coming together for a date night to share the goals and work on our combined list. Through this process especially, it is important that we fully support one another. There are no stupid goals. This should be a real discussion. What do we really want to accomplish together over the next year? What are the benefits of the goal? What obstacles stand in our way? What steps need to be taken to achieve it? Set challenging goals together that are realistic There are no unrealistic goals just some really bad target dates. Goal setting is supposed to be uncomfortable. Goal setting begins with an awareness of where you are right now and a desire to change your future together Goals are a prelude to action, they are a course to take; they are an expression of your strengths; they are an exercise of your desire for becoming better together Growing together is a choice all partners must make Growing apart is an excuse.
EP 36: Self Care, Together Care
Mental-health day or self-care? We millennials love to develop our own phrases for everything. Either way you call it, it is something we practice regularly. In this episode, we discuss what self care is and what it isn't, what we do separately to practice self-care, and what we do together to practice what we call "together care." Music “Sunny” by Bensound.com. What We Talked About in this Episode: What self care is/isn’t It is not just doing something for yourself It's an activity that puts you in a better mind place, zen out, Self-care solo What Ashley does Blowouts Journaling What Billy does Reading Self care together Travel/trips Spas Walks/workouts Conversations, listening to each other Listening to Audible together Couples who self care together stay together Did we just coin Together-Care?