Sexology

Welcome to Episode 504 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to welcome back Dr. Richard Espinoza, who speaks to me about how attachment styles shape our dating patterns, relationships, and sexual connections.

In this episode, Dr. E and I discuss why we can have such intense chemistry with people that we may not be compatible with at all. We look at how our early attachment experiences influence who we find familiar and attractive as adults, why emotionally unavailable partners can sometimes create an intoxicating sense of desire, and how the nervous system can mistake anxiety, uncertainty, or old relational patterns for chemistry. 

Richard “Dr. E” Espinoza, PsyD, is a leading clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles, specializing in trauma and resilience. His practice places a strong emphasis on serving the LGBTQ+ community and its allies, striving to empower individuals from diverse backgrounds through comprehensive psychological assessments, transformative talk therapy, and dedicated activism. Dr. Espinoza is an esteemed professor and captivating speaker, where he shares practical insights on self-discovery and personal growth, along with creating accessible self-help resources designed to inspire personal transformation and a deeper sense of fulfillment.

In this episode, you will hear:
Why Unavailable Partners Feel So Attractive
When Chemistry Is Actually Anxiety
Understanding The Four Attachment Styles
How Childhood Shapes Your Dating Type
Why Familiarity Does Not Equal Compatibility
How Attachment Patterns Affect Sex
Using Sex For Reassurance And Validation
Why Insight Alone Does Not Create Change
Creating Corrective Emotional Experiences
Rethinking Attraction Through LA Love Lab

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Welcome to Episode 503 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Midori who speaks to me about exploring kink, dominance, submission, and finding authentic ways to embrace our desires.
In this episode, I speak with Midori about why we’re seeing a rise in women getting curious about dominance and BDSM, particularly women in their 40s and beyond. We discuss how difficult cultural assumptions can open up opportunities for greater sexual self-exploration, and that it’s OK to be dominant without being mean, scary or playing a stereotypical dominatrix. 
Midori is an internationally recognized sexologist, kink educator, coach, and author. She's the founder of ForteFemme Women's Dominance Intensive, the groundbreaking program she's run for over 20 years, and the author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, the first English-language book on Shibari, along with contributions to several academic volumes. She also trains therapists and wellness professionals as Curriculum Director for the Kink Informed Certification through the Sexual Health Alliance, and presents regularly at the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). Through workshops and private coaching, she helps adults bring more creativity, confidence, and erotic fulfillment into their lives.

In this episode, you will hear:
Women Exploring Dominance Later In Life
Moving Beyond Traditional Sexual Roles
Understanding Ravishment Fantasies
Why Submission Can Feel Liberating
Exploring Erotic Humiliation Safely
Finding Your Dominant Archetype
Introducing The You Will Game
Communicating And Co-Creating Kink
Challenging Common BDSM Misconceptions
Finding Safe And Trustworthy Kink Resources

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Welcome to Episode 502 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Jane Garnett, LMFT who speaks to me about how our attraction patterns develop and whether we change who we are drawn to.
In this episode, Jane and I discuss why we can have so much attraction to people who are emotionally unavailable or unable to give us the secure relationship we want. We also look at how attachment styles, cultural conditioning, unmet emotional needs, and past relationship experience can influence what is exciting or desirable. 
Jane Garnett is an Oxford-educated speaker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), EMDR practitioner, and author of This Time with Feeling (May 12, 2026). With nearly 20 years in private practice, her work often centers on high-functioning individuals whose lives look successful on the outside but are shaped by patterns of emotional disconnection, anxiety, or underlying dissatisfaction.  As a psychotherapist, Jane helps people rewrite the beliefs that subconsciously shape their lives, recognize the scripts they inherited, listen to the body’s signals, and make choices that create actual safety and connection— helping them shift not just their circumstances, but their relationship to themselves and their lives.

In this episode, you will hear:
Changing Our Attraction Patterns
Understanding Unhealthy Relationship Templates
When Chaos Feels Like Chemistry
Attraction To Emotionally Unavailable Partners
Cultural Messages About Desire
Exploring The Meaning Of Fantasy
Affairs As A Form Of Splitting
Learning To Choose Yourself
Regulating The Nervous System
Rewiring Relationships Through EMDR

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Welcome to Episode 501 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Heather Florio and Dr. Fenwa Milhouse who speak to me about sexual health, desire, and pleasure during perimenopause and menopause.

In this episode, we discuss how changes in levels of oestrogen and testosterone can affect the brain, genitals, arousal and sex drive. We examine why hormones alone are rarely the cause of low libido, and how relationship dynamics, painful sex, body image, stress, shame, and the natural shift from spontaneous to responsive desire can all impact someone’s sexual experience.

Heather Florio is the second-generation CEO of Desert Harvest, a women's-health company her family founded in 1993. She writes the monthly Dear Sexpert column for BELLA Magazine, sits on BELLA's Medical Advisory Board, and is a Forbes Leading Woman in Business (2022). Late-diagnosed autistic.

Dr. Fenwa Milhouse—widely known as “Your Favorite Urologist”- is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained sub-specialist in Urogynecology and Reconstructive Pelvic Surgery.
She is the current President of the Chicago Urological Society—making history as the first Black woman to hold this position. 

In this episode, you will hear:
Hormonal Changes During Perimenopause
Understanding Multifactorial Low Desire
Barriers To Menopause Treatment
Spontaneous Versus Responsive Desire
Painful Sex And Vaginal Health
Systemic And Vaginal Hormone Therapy
Choosing Safer Personal Lubricants
Medications For Low Libido
GLP-1s And Sexual Desire
Rediscovering Pleasure After Menopause
A Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive
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Welcome to Episode 500 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by some of my most memorable guests, who speak to me about the biggest lessons on pleasure, desire, intimacy, and connection from the past nine years.

In this special milestone episode, I revisit conversations that challenged common assumptions about what fulfilling sex is supposed to look like. We explore why foreplay often begins long before anyone enters the bedroom, how every human body experiences pleasure differently, and why there is no single correct way to orgasm. We also look at what research can teach us about sexual positions, pelvic floor contractions, stimulation, and the importance of adapting sexual experiences to our individual bodies.

I also reflect on the deeper lessons these 500 conversations have taught me about becoming a more attentive and connected partner. We discuss moving beyond sexual autopilot, questioning techniques learned through pornography, understanding our fantasies without shame, and keeping desire alive in long-term relationships. Thank you for making these 500 episodes possible and here’s to the next 500!

In this episode, you will hear (In Order Of Appearance)

Sebastian Harris
Emily Nagoski
Lauri Mintz 
Amir Marashi
Anna Lee
Miranda Houston
Jason Julius
Justin Lehmiller
Ian Kerner
Peggy Kleinplatz

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