Order of Man

In this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan and Kipp dive deep into ancestry, fatherhood, marriage, leadership, depression, and raising strong young men in a modern world. From guiding your kids with better standards, to rebuilding intimacy in marriage, to understanding what real vulnerability looks like, this episode is packed with practical wisdom. They also discuss how men often become their own biggest obstacle - and what to do about it. 
Plus, a conversation about movies that shape boys into men.
If you're navigating fatherhood, marriage, or personal growth, this one hits home.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Ironman Training & Weekend Plans
09:05 - Family Ancestry & Legacy
15:51 - Raising Kids with Higher Standards
25:03 - What Women Mean by "Vulnerability"
28:47 - Are Movies a Good Way to Teach Boys?
40:35 - Marriage Struggles & Depression
53:02 - The Power of Brotherhood
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
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There are things that happened to you that weren't your fault. Maybe your dad wasn't there. Maybe no one modeled strength, discipline, or direction. Maybe you were handed confusion instead of clarity and drift instead of standards. But while it may not have been your fault, it is your responsibility. And the moment you understand that is the moment your life begins to change.
Today, my guest Frank Schwartz (Dark Helmet in the F3 Community, and I talk about what it means to stop blaming, stop guessing, and start leading. We'll unpack why so many men feel disconnected from purpose, how to build direction through fitness, fellowship, and faith, and why your community needs you to set the standard - not apologize for it. This isn't about shame. It's about ownership. And ownership is where power begins.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Time Passing & Becoming Grandfathers
01:32 - 100,000 Men & What They're Really Struggling With
02:39 - The Crisis of Purpose in Modern Men
05:01 - Why Brotherhood Changes Everything
06:21 - Leadership Without Pretending You Have It All Figured Out
09:59 - "It's Your Dad's Fault… Now It's Your Responsibility."
11:12 - Fitness as the Tool for Fellowship
14:16 - The Standard: Why Men Must Assimilate, Not Soften It
18:18 - Nice vs. Kind: The Truth About Real Love
20:23 - Candor: Telling Hard Truths & Demanding Them Back
23:58 - Nothing Gets Better Until Men Get Better
38:03 - A Battle to Fight: Turning Pain into Purpose
41:52 - Becoming a Higher Agency Man
44:44 - Changing Your Thinking & Building Momentum
47:47 - From "Can't Do" to "Can't Not Do"
49:31 - The Return to Virtuous Masculinity
52:24 - Why Men Need Tribe, Not Just Information
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
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In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan dives into five common phrases women say that often don't match what they actually mean. This isn't about deception or manipulation - it's about understanding human nature, attraction dynamics, emotional safety, and relationship leadership.
If men build relationships on what's said instead of what's actually happening beneath the surface, they risk frustration, confusion, and disconnection.
Ryan breaks down:
 - Why "I'm fine" rarely means fine
 - The truth behind "He's just a friend"
 - Why women don't actually want a "nice guy"
 - The myth of the "dad bod" preference
 - What's really behind "I don't need a man"
The goal? Stronger relationships, better discernment, and healthier dynamics between men and women.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Intro
00:15 - Why This Conversation Matters
01:00 - Lie #1: "I'm Fine"
05:10 - Lie #2: "He's Just a Friend"
09:58 - Lie #3: "I Want a Nice Guy"
14:39 - Lie #4: "I Like Dad Bods"
17:55 - Lie #5: "I Don't Need a Man"
23:37 - What This Is Really About
25:05 - The Men's Forge Event
26:02 - Final Thoughts & Outro
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan and Kipp dive into powerful listener questions from the Iron Council and Facebook group. They break down the difference between chasing and pursuing, how to handle employee resentment after promotions, and how childhood beliefs silently shape the man you become.
The conversation moves into leading through chaos, navigating marital strain, protecting yourself during divorce, and the real risks and opportunities of AI. Raw, unfiltered, and highly practical - this episode is packed with leadership wisdom for men navigating business, marriage, and modern life.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 Introduction
02:45 Chasing vs. Pursuing
07:42 Handling Employee Raise Fallout
22:13 Childhood Beliefs That Shape You
32:17 Leading Through Setbacks
41:17 When Is Enough Enough in Marriage?
45:45 The Truth About AI Risks & Leverage
01:06:06 Divorce Strategy & Legal Advice
01:09:17 The Last Time We Laughed Hard
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

We're living in a digital battlefield and most men don't even know they're fighting. The time we spend on our devices is unreal, and if it's free, you're the product. Algorithms and machine learning are engineered to hijack your attention, erode focus, and create compulsive habits. Today we're talking about auditing your digital life, removing the noise to find the signal, and building the discipline to guard your mind in an age of constant distraction.
Joining me is Richard Ryan, author of The Warrior's Garden, built on the principle that it's better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war. We discuss digital detox, delayed gratification, accountability, and reclaiming the smallest locus of control so you can't be manipulated by the forces competing for your attention.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Recording Begins & Digital Reality Check
00:50 - The Attention Economy: You Are the Product
03:00 - Negativity Bias & Why Outrage Wins Online
07:00 - Screen Time Audit: The Lifetime Cost
10:00 - Subscription Culture & Hidden Digital Leakage
12:30 - AI & Cognitive Atrophy: Guarding Your Mind
14:00 - Digital Detox & Withdrawal Symptoms
16:00 - The "Dead Internet" Theory
20:45 - Expediency & The Death of Delayed Gratification
22:30 - The Marshmallow Study & Impulse Control
28:00 - Compulsive App Use & "First Pickups"
31:00 - Addiction Substitution & Dopamine Traps
36:00 - Accountability & Why 95% Succeed With It
38:00 - Gratitude as Mental Armor
41:30 - Optimism, Awareness & Opportunity
49:00 - Incentives Drive Outcomes (Politics & Power)
55:00 - Personal Responsibility Over Group Dependency
58:00 - True Diversity: Strength Through Capability
1:02:30 - Warriors Garden & Closing Thoughts
Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!
Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto.
For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.
Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready