Emotionally Uncomfortable

"Having the freedom to decide this is what I choose to do now or another time, that to me is that time-rich feeling."
In this episode, Heather and Christine Landis gently (and sometimes unapologetically) challenge the way we think about productivity, responsibility, and the stories we tell ourselves about success. Together, they unpack the invisible labor so many women carry, the exhaustion of decision fatigue, and the cultural conditioning that convinces us we must do everything ourselves to be "good" partners, mothers, leaders, or humans. This isn't a conversation about outsourcing tasks for the sake of efficiency; it's about buying back your time so you can reclaim your energy, your joy, and your capacity to live intentionally rather than by default. Christine invites us to reimagine what it means to be "time rich," to stop apologizing for spaciousness, and to consciously plan for joy as a foundational part of an aligned life.
What to listen for:
✨ Understanding house management, and giving ourselves permission to outsource
✨ Identifying the invisible load you carry and the decision fatigue that comes with it
✨ Becoming "time rich" by letting go of the need to do everything yourself
"It's not about delegating laundry or delegating meal prep. It's about reclaiming your fucking life and reclaiming how you want to feel."
✨ If we want men to step up, we as women need to better value our own time
✨ Giving yourself more capacity with that time, not doing more of something else
✨ The importance of not judging or defending the spaciousness you bought back
"Planning for joy is really important. You can't be reactionary. You have to put that thought out there and look ahead into your week, your month. It doesn't have to be this big five-year plan, but even just protecting your time on a doable, regular basis."
✨ Focusing on the life you want rather than living by default
✨ Planning for your joy instead of being reactive to what's coming at you
✨ Valuing yourself and your time differently, and the challenges that come with it

About Christine Landis:
Christine Landis is the founder of Peacock Parent and the creator of Proxy, a text-based thinking partner for home life.
 A former fintech CEO who inherited and grew her family's company before selling it, Christine thought retirement would bring freedom — but instead it clarified her mission. She realized that time, not money, is the real measure of success.
Today, she uses her decades of operational experience to help high-achieving families reduce the mental load, delegate with confidence, and buy back time for the moments that matter most. Through Peacock Parent's guides and Proxy's fast, judgment-free responses, Christine is redefining what modern support at home can look like.
Connect with Christine Landis:
Website:https://peacockparent.com/

Instagram: @PeacockParent

Text: 820-PEACOCK (820-732-2625)

Try Proxy: Use code HEATHER for 3 months free ($450 value). Purchase the 3-month plan, complete your profile, and get a thinking partner in your back pocket via text. https://proxy.peacockparent.com/purchase 
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For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life.
We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy.
Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate?
Apply for the next 1:1 Coaching Cohort:
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"If you just trusted people a little bit more, you would have more time, you would have more energy, and you could return home to yourself."
We live in a culture that rewards fixing, striving, and holding everything together, yet the truth is that many women are exhausted not from doing too little but from carrying too much that was never theirs to hold. In this episode, Heather explores what happens when the identity that once fueled your growth begins to limit your freedom, why trusting others can radically expand your time and energy, and how success, achievement, and emotional satisfaction are often operating on entirely different tracks. From energy hoarding and nervous system recalibration after change to the emotional discomfort of having standards, agency, and self-respect, this episode invites you to stop "shoulding," reclaim discernment, and return home to yourself, not as a destination, but as a daily practice of honesty, surrender, and intentional feeling.
What to listen for:
✨ The addiction to "fixing" oneself and why energy management matters more
✨ Why most people aren't evolving fast enough to keep up with broader changes
✨ Learning how to communicate your value is a skill that more women need
"It is incredibly emotionally uncomfortable for the average woman, let alone the average human, to have discernment, agency, enough self-respect, and high standards on how she lets other people treat her. It actually comes from an identity that you have outgrown."
✨ What really is the finish line for "success," or will the goal post keep moving? 
✨ Why "shoulding" on ourselves doesn't help, and how to see it is data to work from
✨ How your life looks on the outside has nothing to do with life satisfaction
"Your feelings and your goals are two different things, and identifying that alone can be a game-changer. More money and achievements aren't going to make you happy. It's so cliché what they say about 'enjoy the journey,' but that's it. How do you want to feel in every moment and every second of the day?"
✨ Why the identity that got you to where you are isn't serving you anymore
✨ The reason our nervous systems get stuck in a "weird" state after change
✨ Getting honest with yourself and surrendering to what's happening
"Parenting feels heavier because you're holding something that's not yours to carry. You've become an energy hoarder, and you don't know how to declutter your energy."
✨ It's our job to become adults and acquire the skills that we want our kids to have
✨ Why we love to act like victims of our lives when the world feels unstable
✨ Control is caused by our lack of wanting to feel our feelings healthily
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For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life.
We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy.
Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate?
Book a Time & Energy Audit: https://heatherchauvin.com/audit
Apply for the next Coaching Cohort: https://heatherchauvin.com/apply
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"Marketing is required in any business, and the marketing landscape is constantly changing. You have to evolve with it."
In this episode, Heather and Jess Shirra break down what it actually looks like to evolve with the marketing landscape without burning yourself out or throwing money at strategies that don't move the needle in your unique business. This is a real conversation about the identity shift that comes with hiring a team, the weight of holding the bigger pieces alone, and why bringing in the right marketing leadership at the right time can change everything. If you've ever felt the pressure to "figure it out" yourself, questioned your strategy, or wondered whether you're investing in the right things, this episode will challenge how you think about growth, support, and building a business that honors your lifestyle, not just your revenue goals.
What to listen for:
✨ The identity shift and initiation that come with hiring a team for your business
✨ How the heaviness of holding the bigger pieces can negatively impact your work
✨ Understanding the right hiring order for team members, and finding their best role
"The CMO role is almost like having insurance for your marketing budget and marketing efforts. Someone inside your business is making sure you're not wasting money, spending too much, or focusing on the wrong thing,s and that every single little bit of energy, effort, revenue, like budget is being directed towards the most needle-moving things."
✨ Hiring a Chief Marketing Officer who honors your lifestyle and goals
✨ Why you need a marketing strategy and a dedicated lead-generation funnel
✨ The importance of asking for support in advance so you don't expect instant ROI
"If you have a strong CMO, what that person will do is hear your ideas and then think about that in the bigger picture of where we're going, and this thing actually does make sense, or it's going to actually make that other thing faster or better."
✨ The importance of having a solid marketing strategy in place, even if you're new
✨ Building self-trust and navigating the lack of ethics in online marketing
✨ Understanding there's no one right way to market a business
About Jess Shirra:
Jess Shirra is a Fractional CMO and the founder of The CMO Office, where she partners with 7- and 8-figure creators and brands to bring them the clarity, direction, and leadership they've been missing in their marketing. 
Over her 15-year career, she's led marketing for global brands like Lululemon, Pottery Barn, Strava, and Deloitte, and has supported top creators including Jenna Kutcher, Lori Harder, and Vanessa and Xander Marin. Jess' superpower is her ability to cut through the noise and help founders understand what their businesses truly need to grow.
Connect with Jess:
Website: https://www.thecmooffice.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marketing.by.jess 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessicashirra/ 

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For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life.
We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy.
Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate?
Book a Time & Energy Audit: https://heatherchauvin.com/audit
Apply for the next Coaching Cohort: https://heatherchauvin.com/apply
Not ready for 1:1? Join the membership (cancel anytime): https://heatherchauvin.com/membership

"If you choose to quit and run away, you're 100% guaranteed to not get the result that you came for."
In this episode, Heather shares an honest conversation about emotional endurance, how it's not the "hustle-hard, push-through" version we've been sold, and why it's important to stay with yourself when things get uncomfortable, inconvenient, or uncertain. She unpacks why reinvention often stalls out when self-abandonment is mistaken for strength, how real lightness comes from honoring capacity rather than overriding it, and what it actually means to keep going without betraying yourself. If you've ever felt torn between wanting more and feeling the weight of resistance from yourself or those around you, this episode is an invitation to redefine endurance as knowing when to lean in and when to take a damn break.
What to listen for:
✨ The real reason most people aren't doing the work to reinvent themselves
✨ Heather's love letter on not abandoning yourself and creating more lightness
✨ Navigating resistance from the people around you as you go for more
"You won't feel lighter or freer by forcing yourself to push harder. It doesn't come from endurance alone; it comes when you stop betraying your capacity in the name of proving you can handle more."
✨ Teaching your family and the people around you how to lead themselves
✨ Sitting with the discomfort of doing the shit that you don't want to do
✨ Why leaning into discomfort is part of what guarantees success
"Become the change you want to see in the world around what you have control over. It's really hard for people to understand that concept because they self-abandon all the time."
✨ Why you need to play with identifying as somebody who isn't avoidant
✨ What do you need to do in alignment with how you want to feel?
✨ You can't give to other people while self-abandoning
"Emotional endurance is looking within, leaning in when you need to be more curious, leaning out when you need a fucking break. Just don't quit."
✨ The difference between performative action and real leadership
✨ Co-creating your life with the people in it and without abandoning yourself
✨ Why emotional endurance has nothing to do with how heavy you feel
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For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life.
We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy.
Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate?
Book a Time & Energy Audit: https://heatherchauvin.com/audit
Apply for the next Coaching Cohort: https://heatherchauvin.com/apply
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"A lot of good things happen when we grab control of that space between our first in our second thought. There's a lot of gifts that come from just taking agency back over your own thoughts before you act."
What happens when we stop trying to manage emotions and start taking responsibility for the space between reaction and choice? In this episode, Heather and Chris Cullen explore a deeper, more grounded conversation about emotional regulation, gender dynamics, and why so many well-intentioned approaches to growth and healing are failing most men. They talk about respect versus control, collaboration versus competition, and how reclaiming agency over our second thought can radically change the way we relate to ourselves, our partners, and our families. This isn't about "fixing" men or "watering down" women; it's about creating environments where both can actually show up differently.
What to listen for:
✨ Why men are realizing that the old ways of "managing emotions" aren't working
✨ What makes traditional therapy feminine in a way that doesn't always support men
✨ The men in your life aren't "unmotivated"; they just have different needs
"Men want to feel respected, women want to feel admired. Part of the respect is bringing us into the equation versus telling us what to do. Making it pro-social for a purpose bigger than you will help ignite that flame."
✨ How to create space for men to feel respected and supported in their growth
✨ When women reclaim their power, men will naturally show up differently
✨ Shifting into relationship as collaboration versus competition
"If you come to me with a chin up and chest out, like, 'You need to do this', you're probably getting it right back. And I don't know that that friction creates a great environment to express or feel."
✨ Your first thought may be reactive, but you're always in charge of your second thought
✨ It's not your spiritual journey to manage your children or partner's experience
✨ Navigating the fear of anger when the men in your life are struggling
About Chris Cullen:
Chris Cullen is a keynote speaker, author, and founder of Win Within, where he helps people and organizations unlock their best through mindset training. A former Division 1 athlete and two-time Ironman finisher, he brings real-world lessons on resilience, growth, and performance into his talks and workshops. Over a decade in the medical field, he generated more than $100M in sales and led high-performing teams across the U.S. and Canada before shifting his focus to mindset and culture. He is the author of I Get To: Change Your Words, Change Your Life, a book that explores how three simple words can transform self-leadership, performance, and workplace culture. Chris also serves as the mental conditioning coach for the University of Georgia softball team, guiding Division 1 athletes with tools to sharpen their mindset and identity. His work blends science, story, and strategy to help others lead themselves first—and thrive in life, sport, and business.
Connect with Chris Cullen:
Website: https://www.chriscullen.com 

Instagram: @chriscullen_c3

Book: I Get To: Change Your Words, Change Your Life: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/i-get-to-chris-cullen/1148030572 

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For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life.
We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy.
Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate?
Book a Time & Energy Audit: https://heatherchauvin.com/audit
Apply for the next Coaching Cohort: https://heatherchauvin.com/apply
Not ready for 1:1? Join the membership (cancel anytime): https://heatherchauvin.com/membership