Diverse Thinking Different Learning

Join us for this episode of Diverse Thinking, Different Learning as we welcome Liz Angoff Ph.D. to the podcast. Dr. Angoff is a Licensed Educational Psychologist and Diplomate in School Neuropsychology who offers assessment and consultation services for children and families in the Bay Area, California. She wrote the Brain Building Books series and Our Brains, which help neurodivergent children better understand, appreciate, and advocate for their unique minds. Learn more about Dr. Liz and her work at her Explaining Brains website.
Throughout our conversation, we talk about how when one child in a family is identified as neurodivergent, the focus understandably shifts to evaluations, therapies, and advocacy, but what about the sibling who is watching it all unfold, quietly forming their own explanations about meltdowns, extra appointments, and uneven attention? We discuss why children are natural "meaning makers" and what can happen when adults leave gaps in the story. Dr. Angoff explains her approach to sharing diagnoses - starting with asking the neurodivergent child for permission before telling a sibling.
Dr. Angoff also walks us through how to translate assessment results into language that kids can actually use, including her "highways and construction projects" metaphor for strengths and challenges. Hear how this shared framework reduces blame, increases empathy, and helps siblings see both themselves and each other more clearly. We also address the real questions siblings ask: Why does my brother get more attention than I do? Is this my fault? Does that mean I have it too?
Dr. Angoff offers some practical scripts for validating those feelings while reinforcing a powerful message: attention may shift, but love is absolutely not divided. The conversation also covers privacy and how to treat a diagnosis as the child's story to share, as well as how to equip siblings with the language to explain differences to friends without making them responsible for managing everything.
Perhaps most importantly, this episode of the show really reframes these talks as an ongoing process rather than a one-time thing. As children grow, their questions change, and so should the conversation.  If you're raising neurodivergent kids and want every child in your family to feel informed, valued, and included, this discussion with Dr. Liz Angoff will surely give you the language, perspective, and practical tools to start!

Show Notes:

[2:40] - Dr. Angoff talks about how inviting kids into diagnostic conversations naturally raises questions about siblings.
[3:00] - Without clear explanations, siblings often invent their own stories regarding what's happening.
[3:43] - Early conversations can help reshape harmful narratives and prevent siblings from forming inaccurate roles.
[6:00] - Dr. Angoff reflects on how families work best when kids own their story and guide what others learn.
[9:36] - Dr. Angoff asserts that concrete, age-appropriate examples can help siblings grasp complicated diagnoses.
[10:54] - Dr. Angoff discusses how using shared brain metaphors leads to empathy and mutual understanding between siblings.
[13:08] - Highlighting strengths and "construction projects" can help siblings respond with empathy.
[16:04] - Dr. Angoff explains how shared brain language reduces blame while ensuring that every child's needs matter.
[19:04] - Dr. Angoff explains how openness and reassurance can help siblings feel valued despite unequal attention.
[22:03] - Even when attention shifts, love remains constant and intentional!
[23:23] - Dr. Angoff asserts that honest conversations can help prevent siblings from believing that they matter less.
[25:30] - Families protect diagnostic privacy while equipping siblings to respond confidently!
[28:54] - Descriptive explanations of behaviors can help siblings understand and support each other!
[29:19] - Dr. Angoff believes that siblings should share responsibility for advocacy while also seeking adult help when overwhelmed.
[30:58] - Conversations around diagnosis should happen gradually, focusing on practical and present needs.
[33:04] - Hear how stories, visuals, and resources can help families explain neurodiversity in accessible ways.
[34:00] - Dr. Angoff believes that empowering language around neurodivergence helps support positive family narratives and understanding.
 
Links and Related Resources:
More Podcast Episodes

Episode 137: Helping Kids Understand Their Amazing Brains with Dr. Liz Angoff

 
Connect with Dr. Angoff:
Explaining Brains

Dr. Angoff's Books

 
Join Our Community:
Substack

Please join us in welcoming Leslie Catlett, MS, OTR/L to the podcast! Leslie is the founder of The Penmanship Lab, where she helps children develop confident, functional handwriting skills that support real learning. As a pediatric occupational therapist and mom of two, she approaches handwriting challenges by looking beyond neatness to understand the deeper factors affecting each child. Leslie specializes in working with children with ADHD, dysgraphia, dyslexia, and autism, creating individualized, engaging strategies that make writing more accessible and meaningful. She holds a Master's degree in Occupational Therapy from the University of Wisconsin–Madison and is deeply committed to inclusive, strengths-based learning environments.
In our conversation, we discuss the complexity of handwriting and why it's so often misunderstood, with Leslie explaining that handwriting isn't just a fine motor task but a full-body, brain-heavy activity that involves posture, attention, memory, sensory processing, and emotional regulation all at the same time. For neurodivergent learners, including children with ADHD, dysgraphia, dyslexia, or autism, handwriting can be truly exhausting, frustrating, and even overwhelming, and it's rarely a matter of laziness or lack of effort.
We discuss the misconceptions that slow progress signals a lack of motivation or that kids will simply "grow out of it," and why traditional practice alone often makes matters even worse. Leslie highlights how occupational therapy addresses handwriting differently by building foundational skills first, from posture and core strength to visual motor coordination and sensory regulation, before layering on handwriting itself. Progress isn't just about neater writing; it shows up first as reduced frustration, more confidence, and increased endurance.
In our conversation, we also talk about practical ways parents and educators can support handwriting and fine motor development at home, with Leslie highlighting the importance of short, successful practice sessions, movement breaks, and incorporating skills into play via crafts, cooking, outdoor activities, or even Lego building. Leslie also discusses when it's time to seek professional help, pointing out that handwriting struggles often impact self-esteem, school performance, and emotional regulation.
We explore the purpose behind the Penmanship Lab itself, with Leslie having created it to provide one-on-one support for children who aren't getting enough guidance in school and to help parents feel empowered rather than guilty when their child struggles. She shares how addressing handwriting early can support not only academic success but also everyday independence, from buttoning shirts to tying shoes. Our conversation offers a practical guide for anyone wanting to understand, support, and celebrate children's unique learning needs!

Show Notes:

[2:30] - Handwriting is complex - requiring motor, sensory, attention, memory, and endurance skills simultaneously.
[5:19] - Hear how dysgraphia stems from neurological differences, so practice alone doesn't improve handwriting without foundational support.
[8:42] - Leslie discusses how handwriting engages the brain differently than typing, often improving confidence and emotional regulation first.
[10:56] - Leslie explains how short, playful activities and motor work strengthen handwriting skills and maintain student engagement.
[13:19] - Hear how early intervention can help prevent frustration.
[16:16] - Short, daily handwriting practice improves skills, confidence, and behavior without causing parental blame.
[18:32] - Leslie reveals how The Penmanship Lab fills gaps schools leave, providing one-on-one handwriting support for literacy development.
[20:10] - Daily self-care tasks rely on fine motor skills, linking handwriting to broader functional independence.
 
Links and Related Resources:
Episode 39: Why Fine Motor Skills Matter with Jennifer Morgan

Episode 219: Understanding Dysgraphia: Signs, Strategies, and Support for Struggling Writers

 
Connect with Leslie:
The Penmanship Lab's Website

Email: [email protected]

I am so happy to welcome Dr. Ellen Braaten back for her third time on the show! In case you missed those episodes and/or need a refresher, Dr. Ellen Braaten is the founding director of the Learning and Emotional Assessment Program at Massachusetts General Hospital and an associate professor at Harvard Medical School. She is a prolific researcher and author whose work focuses on ADHD, learning disorders, child psychopathology, processing speed, intelligence, and children's motivation, including bestselling books for parents and professionals. Deeply committed to public education, she frequently speaks on child mental health topics and contributes to both local and national media.
In our conversation, we talk about why unmotivated kids rarely fit neatly into a single category, with Dr. Braaten explaining that children may struggle with motivation for a variety of reasons, such as cognitive overload, emotional fatigue, repeated failure, or even a lack of clear identity. She also explains why framing these challenges as brain-based skills, rather than personal failings, can help change the way parents and clinicians respond. We also discuss the narrowing of opportunities in schools today, why kids need space to discover their own strengths beyond academics and athletics, and how uncomfortable emotions such as shame, anxiety, or regret can silently block motivation.
Dr. Braaten's workbook is designed not just for children but for the adults supporting them, and she shares how parents, teachers, and therapists can use its activities to spark meaningful conversations, assess where a child gets stuck, and offer guidance without shame. It's about collaboration, not enforcement, and about helping kids take ownership of their growth while navigating setbacks safely.
This episode of the show will surely resonate with anyone supporting tweens and teens, whether you're a parent, educator, or clinician, and offers strategies to help young people (and even adults) rediscover what matters to them, reclaim their motivation, and move forward with confidence!

Show Notes:
[2:09] - Hear how Dr. Ellen Braaten realized poor motivation affects everyone, especially during stressful, sleep-deprived times.
[5:40] - Motivation consists of initiation, persistence, and desire, and can be treated as a learnable skill.
[7:56] - Dr. Braaten discusses how kids today struggle to find identity due to overwhelming choices and early specialization pressures.
[9:52] - Dr. Braaten argues that strengths extend beyond academics and sports, yet schools rarely provide opportunities to explore diverse talents.
[11:51] - Hear how setbacks, injuries, or missed guidance can lead to regret.
[13:44] - Breaking motivation into initiation, intensity, and persistence can help kids, parents, and clinicians clarify obstacles.
[16:28] - Dr. Braaten points out how even small changes, like better sleep, improve motivation.
[18:04] - Parents should balance support and independence, empowering children while preventing guilt or overwhelming hovering.
[21:18] - Anxiety and post-pandemic habits have reduced face-to-face engagement, creating cycles that undermine motivation.
[23:04] - Dr. Braaten's workbook is best used with adults as guides, sparking conversations about identity and priorities.
[26:05] - Hear how to contact Dr. Braaten.


Links and Related Resources:
Episode 61: Slow Processing Speed with Dr. Ellen Braaten

Episode 107: How to Motivate Kids Who Couldn't Care Less with Dr. Ellen Braaten

Dr. Ellen Braaten & Hillary Bush - The Motivation Mindset Workbook: Helping Teens and Tweens Discover What They Love to Do

 
Connect with Dr. Ellen Braaten:
Dr. Ellen Braaten's Website

We are joined in this episode by Stacey Shubitz, K-6 literacy consultant, a former elementary school teacher, and the co-founder of the Two Writing Teachers blog and podcast. Her forthcoming book, Make the School System Work for Your Child with Disabilities: Empowering Kids for the Future, empowers parents to navigate the special education system.
In this episode, we talk openly about what it really takes to support a child with learning challenges in today's school system. Drawing from decades of experience on both sides of the table, Stacey shares why she wrote Make the School System Work for Your Child with Disabilities and what she wishes someone had told her when she was first trying to make sense of evaluations, IEP meetings, and endless paperwork.
Our conversation centers on some of the practical mindset shifts that can help change everything for families, with Stacey explaining why leading with a child's strengths and not just their needs is so important for confidence and motivation. She also addresses disability language head-on, discussing why it is that naming disability isn't limiting but instead opens doors to services, legal protections, and access that families often don't realize they're entitled to.
Throughout the episode, we highlight how knowledge of data, timelines, rights, and documentation can shift the power dynamic and help parents advocate more effectively. We offer some concrete guidance on when to push for evaluations, why waiting too long can do a lot of harm, and how to ask for progress data without feeling confrontational. Stacey also shares what makes IEP meetings feel collaborative instead of adversarial, from simple preparation strategies to small human touches that ease tension. Communication comes up again and again: how approaching teachers with curiosity, clarity, and respect can lead to better outcomes for kids!
Stacey also speaks candidly about burnout, emotional exhaustion, and why joy isn't optional but protective. This conversation offers reassurance, realism, and a clear-eyed look at how parents can show up informed, empowered, and grounded while advocating for their children.

Show Notes:

[2:32] - Hear how Stacey's experiences with IEPs inspired her to help other parents.
[4:04] - Stacey describes leading with strengths, not just challenges or disabilities.
[6:03] - Highlighting positives alongside challenges helps children see themselves as capable.
[9:42] - Stacey argues that children should know their rights and services so that they can advocate for themselves.
[12:49] - It's so important for parents to monitor progress, request data, and push for evaluations when their child isn't advancing.
[14:58] - Stacey adds that it's also essential to advocate firmly and request evaluations when interventions aren't producing results.
[16:20] - Preparing for meetings with clarity, human touches, and understanding who's present can help make discussions more productive.
[19:44] - Coming to meetings prepared with documents in advance helps balance power and supports advocacy.
[23:04] - Stacey discusses how reviewing IEPs in advance can help ensure more effective teacher interactions.
[25:00] - Approaching teachers with curiosity and gathering accurate information helps promote calm, productive conversations around school.
[28:18] - Stacey gives an example of how being open about personal struggles allows teachers to provide better support for children.
[30:33] - Stacey asserts that assuming positive intentions about teachers helps lead to collaboration and avoids unnecessary conflict.
[32:07] - Stacey wishes that she had known sooner how important it is to read the procedural safeguards book to understand parental rights and timelines.
[34:12] - Stacey expresses that she has learned that intentionally curating joy and connection can help prevent burnout.
[37:05] - Joy is a legitimate form of intervention.


Links and Related Resources:
Stacey Shubitz - Make the School System Work for Your Child with Disabilities: Empowering Kids for the Future

Episode 164: 5 Keys to Productive IEPs with April Rehrig

Episode 238: Dismantling DEI and the Department of Education: How Changes Impact Your Child with Vickie Brett & Amanda Selogie

Episode 246: Accommodations, Modifications, or Remediation? How to Know What Your Child Really Needs with Amy Cushner

 
Connect with Stacey Shubitz:
Stacey's Website

Email: [email protected]

Stacey's Substack

Two Writing Teachers Website

We happily welcome Dr. Allie Ticktin to Diverse Thinking Different Learning! Dr. Ticktin is dedicated to helping children and their families thrive through sensory-based play, having founded Play 2 Progress and writing Play to Progress, introducing parents to all eight senses and offering practical ways to support them at home. Blending child development science with playful learning, Dr. Ticktin focuses on building kids' confidence and supporting their growth across emotional, social, physical, and academic areas. At the core of her philosophy is the belief that empowering parents from the very beginning is the best way to set children up for lifelong success!
Throughout our conversation, we explore the topic of sensory processing and sensory motor integration - often misunderstood but nevertheless foundational to how children learn, regulate, and thrive. Dr. Ticktin, an occupational therapist and author, explains that sensory processing involves more than just the five basic senses, that there are actually eight senses that children need to effectively process, including the "hidden" senses of vestibular, proprioceptive, and interoceptive!
Dr. Ticktin highlights the fact that sensory issues are not simply behavioral problems but are rather neurological differences in how a child's brain processes sensory information. This can manifest in various ways, from being overly sensitive to certain textures to having trouble regulating emotions and attention. She stresses the importance of reframing these challenges as differences in sensory processing, rather than just automatically resorting to labeling them as "bad behavior."
As we discuss, an especially important part of supporting children with sensory needs is teaching them to recognize and communicate their needs, and Allie discusses "body tools" - often referred to as fidget spinners or sensory toys - and how empowering children to identify and use whatever tools help them self-regulate can dramatically improve their ability to focus, learn, and interact socially.
Our discussion also covers how sensory integration therapy can positively affect not just motor skills but also social-emotional functioning, with Dr. Ticktin reflecting on how she has seen children learn to self-regulate and even start advocating for their sensory needs and those of their peers. Our discussion provides you with a comprehensive overview of sensory processing, its importance in child development, and effective strategies for supporting children with sensory needs via a collaborative approach based on children's strengths!
 
Show Notes:

[2:29] - Sensory processing involves eight senses, not just tactile experiences such as messy play.
[5:10] - Dr. Ticktin argues that a child's sensory system forms the unseen "roots" supporting all higher developmental skills.
[7:05] - Some kids struggle to filter irrelevant sensory input, resulting in classrooms feeling overwhelming.
[9:08] - Dr. Ticktin points out that many "bad behaviors" actually stem from unsatisfied sensory needs.
[11:28] - Dr. Ticktin explains how "body tools" can help children self-regulate, reducing behavioral issues via sensory support.
[13:30] - Sensory inputs can raise or lower excitement depending on how the child processes them.
[17:38] - Misread behaviors in daily tasks might signal underlying sensory-motor challenges.
[18:22] - Hear how sensory issues can appear as rough play, clumsiness, withdrawal, or shutdowns.
[21:09] - Dr. Ticktin argues that self-regulation often crosses over with sensory needs.
[24:49] - Young kids may tantrum from sensory overwhelm because they lack the language to explain their feelings.
[25:12] - Dr. Ticktin explains how teaching kids to "empty their bucket" prevents overload, very similar to adults managing stress.
[28:33] - Learn how play-based therapy strengthens sensory foundations with purposeful activities appearing as simple play.
[31:54] - Excessive screen time limits ideation, rendering open-ended, unscheduled play especially important for development.
[33:25] - Consistent family involvement is so important, since progress relies on using tools beyond therapy sessions.
[36:14] - Dr. Ticktin encourages listeners to buy her book.


Links and Related Resources:
Episode 42: Understanding Sensory Processing Disorder with Courtney Duckworth-Harris, MA, OTR/L

Episode 72: Prioritizing Co-Regulation and Self-Regulation in Communication with Danielle G. Kent M.S., CCC-SLP

Episode 221: Would a Behavioral Aide/Shadow Help My Child?

Episode 233: Body-Based Interventions for Neurodivergent Students with Megan Beardmore, PhD, NCSP

Allie Ticktin - Play to Progress: Lead Your Child to Success Using the Power of Sensory Play

 
Connect with Dr. Allie Ticktin:
Play2Progress Website

Phone: (323) 782-3331