Dads And Daddies

Judson celebrates one of his top five gay experiences ever in New York City: previous Dads and Daddies guest DJ James Anthony’s afternoon dance party, Unspeakable Joy. Brian considers his week to be quintessential Dads and Daddies, after it turns out to be heavy on both parenting and sexcapades. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener lovingly recounting his first sexual experience with a trans man. Brian and Judson are then joined by Elliot Tuttle, writer and director of Blue Film, available on VOD Friday, June 12. Elliot talks about the various responses he has received to his universally lauded film about a night shared between a camboy and a pederast, and how the story came to him. Judson is inspired by Elliot to reflect on his own past relationships with older men when he was in middle and high school. Elliot also tells Brian and Judson about his path from child movie critic to filmmaker, and explains his belief that the current emphasis on “queer joy” is ruining the taste of gay people. Finally, he goes deep into his favorite topic—dating—and particularly how he’s found his way to having so much fun with it. The episode ends with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a Daddy in a college town who is having trouble finding men his own age, and inadvertently ends up becoming a father figure to the younger men he dates.

Find Elliot Tuttle on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/elliottuttle/

Find ‘Blue Film’ at a theatre near you at https://obscuredreleasing.com/films/blue-film 

Find DJ James Anthony’s dance party Unspeakable Joy on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/unspeakablejoynyc/ 

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Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa 

and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson

Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers

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Judson and Brian celebrate the second anniversary of the podcast, the launch of Season Three, and the start of Pride Month! Judson spots two gay people at his new place of work and strategizes to befriend them both. Brian provides two theatre recommendations for Pride Month. Judson struggles with sleep issues. Brian shares an Instagram post sent his way that examines the question “Why are gay men so divided on open relationships?” The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who gets to prove his versatility when a hot connection made while traveling spices up his vacation more than once during his stay. Brian and Judson then begin their Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza answering five diverse listener questions. They first tackle one about open relationship rules, particularly around repeat hookups; the second asks each to describe their self-care routines; the third wants to know the etiquette around finding people on social media after meeting them at a sex party; the fourth is from a listener who is having trouble with his fiancé’s desire to open the relationship; and the fifth and final question comes from a listener in an open marriage whose Bipolar II disorder makes his libido unpredictable and wants help balancing saving his sexual energy for his husband with allowing himself freedom to have hookups.

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Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa 

and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson

Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers

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Judson and Brian lead opposite lives for a weekend, when Judson attends a Broadway musical Brian hasn’t seen, and Brian has sex twice. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener reuniting with a hookup from a year prior and learning how their original encounter changed the hookup’s life. The two are then joined by recording artist, DJ, and performance legend whose influence has shaped generations of LGBTQ nightlife, dance music, and drag performance, Kevin Aviance! Kevin talks about how he reset his life after surviving a brutal hate crime in 2006 that shocked the LGBTQ community, how the pandemic gave rise to his DJing career, and how Beyoncé sampling his hit song “Cunty” on her Renaissance album completed his return to icon status.  He also talks about the pressures of being labeled iconic, the origins of his latest album, HIPPOPOTAMUS!, his views on sex and hookup culture, his friendship with queens Honey Davenport and Sapphira Cristál and how they helped him understand what it means to be Black and queer in today’s world, his history with the ballroom scene and his reaction to its omnipresence within mainstream pop culture, why he loves aging, and his concern that the younger generation of queer people have lost a sense of history and the ability to learn through experience. Kevin then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a trans man who wants help building confidence to help him in finding friends and making hookups happen. Find Kevin Aviance on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/kevinavianceofficial Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers

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Judson finds himself enjoying a highly-elevated season of self-pleasure due to the improving weather, amongst other reasons. Brian brings a text conversation with Judson to the podcast and the two discuss Judson’s concerns that Brian may be trying to exploit a loophole in the rules of his open marriage. Brian shares an update about a website that provides an important service to him and the podcast’s listeners. The Hookup of the Week comes from a bisexual listener who is happily surprised to make a hot and authentic connection with another bisexual man on the apps. Brian and Judson are then joined by bisexual sex columnist, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto, editor-in-chief of the Boyslut zine, and host of the Bi Babes Book Club on Allstora, Zachary Zane! Zachary covers the gamut of sexual topics, from his struggle to overcome his fraysexuality, to discovering the magic of anal stimulation, to switching from top to bottom and Daddy to Son even within the same session, to what he means by “Bisexual Audibility.” He also talks about formerly relying on drugs and alcohol to lower inhibitions enough to have certain types of sexual encounters, and how to get to the same level of comfort without them; the effects of being raised by a rageaholic; what straight people don’t understand about Grindr; readers who assume he will sleep with them; how long it truly takes to have sex; and he answers questions from some Dads and Daddies book clubbers. Zachary then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who can only finish when bottoming but finds himself topping due to what he describes as a top shortage.

Find Zachary Zane on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/zacharyzane_ and at his site, https://www.zacharyzane.com/ 

Get Zachary’s book, Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto at https://allstora.com/products/boyslut-a-memoir-and-manifesto/ 

Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com

Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/

Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod

Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod

Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa 

and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson

Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers

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Brian reports on a hookup that was lightning quick to plan, but double the usual time to execute. Judson enjoys what he rates as one of his top ten hookups ever. The Hookup of the Week discovers Facebook’s utility as a hookup app. The two are then joined by personal finance educator and advocate Nick Wolny. Nick, the finance columnist for Out Magazine and author of the book Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future, helps Brian and Judson understand how and why queer people approach money in our own way. He delves into how we develop our thought patterns around money and how we can set ourselves up for our futures while living fabulous queer lives in the present. He shares how he crafted his book to educate those of us who don’t have money left over at the end of the month about how to get to a place where we do, and to then maintain it so we can live the way we deserve in the moment. Brian, Judson and Nick also examine broadening the definition of wealth, debate whether or not poppers are an essential expense, Nick shares his Daddy Issue about his realization he’s becoming his parents, and he responds to listener-submitted questions. The episode ends with the three responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is excited to attend the Folsom Street Fair for his first time, and wants to ensure that he and his husband are preparing for it properly.

Find Nick Wolny on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/nickwolny and at his site, https://nickwolny.com/

Get Nick’s book, Money Proud: The Queer Guide to Generate Wealth, Slay Debt and Build Good Habits to Secure Your Future at https://bookshop.org/p/books/money-proud-the-queer-guide-to-generate-wealth-slay-debt-and-build-good-habits-to-secure-your-future-nick-wolny/62e6d0c8495e8da0?ean=9780063436602&next=t 

Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com

Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/

Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod

Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod

Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa 

and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson

Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers

Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.