Lowkey Chaotic

“Fuck her till she falls in love” is a phrase that gets thrown around casually as a joke, a warning, or a dismissal.This episode takes that cliché apart.Instead of framing women’s attachment after intimacy as weakness or lack of control, we look at what’s actually happening beneath the surface: nervous system responses, cultural conditioning, and the power dynamics that shape how closeness is experienced and judged.If you’ve ever been told you “caught feelings” as if it were a personal failure, this conversation offers language, context, and relief instead of shame.

In this episode, I talk about endings that don’t happen on your terms, how women are conditioned to cling to the “good guy” in dating culture even when he doesn’t fulfill all their desires, and the nervous system - how it bonds to patterns, why it doesn’t care about timelines or logic, and how it shapes the way we experience loss.

Situationships suck. Good people exist. Clarity is care. Endings are okay. And I broke my foot yesterday.

Modern dating feels tense because women and men are responding to completely different realities.This episode unpacks that divide - the patterns women grow up noticing, the stakes we carry into adulthood, and the context men were never taught to see. Not to blame anyone, but to finally make the gap visible.

I lost myself in my ex. Everything he did or didn’t do determined how I felt, who I was, and how I showed up. And now that I’ve started dating again, I’ve realized how scared I am of slipping back into that version of myself.In this episode, I talk about how past patterns show up in new situations, how your nervous system remembers things you think you’ve moved on from, and what it looks like to try to love someone without abandoning yourself again.