You Will Please Me

Before the dungeon, there was Afghanistan. The Circus. Meditation. The UN. A search for something true. This is how I found it and why I'm bringing you in.

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After two years, over a hundred episodes, and a million listens - this is the final episode of the #teakink podcast. What began as a voice on a sofa became something much bigger - a space to think out loud, connect across borders, and be in conversation with those of you who listened, shared, and carried it with you.

'You Will Please Me' is the next chapter - more intentional, and even more intimate. Eva Oh's new podcast is on the horizon - with deeper focus, more solo episodes, and a continued unfolding of power, presence, and becoming.

Thank you for being part of this journey. The exchange isn’t over - it’s only changing shape.

Mistress Wei joins Eva Oh to talk latex in the tropics, sex parties in Singapore, and building a thriving kink career in one of Southeast Asia’s most discreet yet dynamic BDSM scenes. From her first session to public perceptions and regional fetish culture, Wei shares how she’s carved out a space for power, play, and pleasure—with a mask on, of course.

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HIGHLIGHTS:
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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink
(00:21) - Mistress Wei, a Dominatrix in Singapore
(02:20) - From a Random DM to Shadowing a Session
(05:00) - Latex Fetishists in Humid Singapore
(07:50) - Shibari in Singapore
(08:55) - Kink Population in London vs Singapore
(10:50) - How to Find Sex Parties in Singapore
(13:30) - So Many Achievements Already!
(16:50) - Singapore's Public Perception Relations
(21:40) - Who Attends Singapore's Sex Parties
(24:30) - Bangkok Fetish Ball
(25:00) - Singapore, South East Asia's Biggest Kink Community
(26:00) - Masks, Anonymity and What it's Like Being Recognised
(32:40) - Words of Encouragement from Mistress Wei

Dating a dominant woman isn’t about begging to be used - it’s about learning how to meet power with presence. In this episode of the #teakink Podcast, Eva Oh unpacks the messy reality of dating as a Domme, the chaos of app culture, and what actually works when approaching a dominant woman. Supported by Chyrpe - the dating app for femdom and female-led relationships - this is essential listening for anyone navigating femdom dynamics with curiosity, confusion, or just too many emojis.

Chyrpe: www.chyrpe.com/eva_oh

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh
More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:
Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.
(00:00) - Welcome to #teakink
(00:28) - Introducing Chyrpe: the dating app for femdom and FLRs
(01:24) - Why dating a dominant woman isn’t about “doing anything you want”
(02:00) - The dating app disaster zone
(04:10) - What dominant women experience on mainstream apps
(05:30) - “I want to be your slave” & other spammy openers
(06:15) - Respect, not performance: what Dommes actually want
(07:30) - The cost of desperation: kink bingo and checkbox culture
(08:50) - Submission isn’t self-erasure
(10:10) - What gets a real response from a Domme?
(11:25) – Red flags vs green flags in femdom dating
(13:00) - Emotional competence > chaotic desperation
(15:10) - Fantasy vs reality: can you meet power with presence?
(16:00) - For submissives: curiosity, calm, consistency
(16:35) - For doms: vetting is sacred
(17:10) - Final word: dominance isn’t something you consume - it’s something you relate to

How I became a Dominatrix, what the job really involves, and the layered challenges we face: stigma, emotional labor, financial exclusion, and more. It’s the behind-the-scenes look at sex work you won’t find on Netflix.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh
More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:
Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.
(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink
(00:15) - The Scope of My Job
(01:45) - The Interest in Sex Work
(02:40) - The Intricacies and Evolution of My Work Responsibilities
(04:50) - What a Receptionist Shielded Me From
(09:30) - Why I Do Sex Work Despite the Challenges
(11:05) - Dungeon vs Indie
(11:50) - Navigating Societal Stigma
(12:30) - Marketing and Perceiving Yourself
(14:00) - Navigating Space and Community Challenges
(15:55) - Interpersonal Session Skills
(17:00) - Feeling Safe in My Workplace vs In Public, Workplace Wins
(20:05) - Financial Exclusion and Structural Violence in Banking for Sex Workers
(25:45) - The Power of Resilience, Community and You
(27:43) - My Internship at a Sex Work Organisation
(28:30) - Learning About the Backpage Shutdown Impact on Sex Workers
(30:00) - The Data for Decriminalisation by Amnesty International vs Puritanism
(31:17) - Why I Love My Job