BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

Why do some leaders seem reactive instead of regulated?
Why does the news trigger anxiety?
Why does the world feel so overwhelming right now?

In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we dive deep into why so much in the world feels chaotic, corrupted, and out of control, and what that has to do with unhealed childhood wounds.

We explain the concept of conditional versus unconditional love, and how lacking true emotional safety in childhood can lead to self-worth being tied to achievement, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and external validation. You’ll also walk away with practical tools to manage fear, build safety in your body and relationships, and regulate your nervous system—so you don’t carry external chaos into your home and inner world. 

This conversation is especially relevant if you’re struggling with anxiety, powerlessness, or just want to understand the emotional climate of our times.

00:30 – Are Leaders Acting from Childhood Trauma?
04:00 – Conditional vs Unconditional Love Explained
09:50 – How Lack of Self-Love Impacts Empathy: Trauma Patterns
12:30 – Reacting vs Responding (Emotional Regulation)
16:00 – Why the News Triggers Anxiety
20:15 – How to Heal Your Inner Child to Stay Regulated

👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 
https://www.laviniabrown.com 
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
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📱 Connect with Andrew: 
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

In a world where “success” is often defined by grades, achievements, and fitting into a predefined path, many children grow up disconnected from who they truly are. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we explore how to raise authentic kids, children who feel safe being themselves rather than becoming mini versions of their parents or living out inherited expectations.
Support your child’s individuality, build emotional safety, and guide them without controlling who they become.
01:05 – When Parents Project Their Own Dreams Onto Their Children
03:40 – Academic Pressure, Grades & Identity in Children
05:00 – Why Anxiety Shows Up When Kids Aren’t Being Themselves
10:20 – School Systems, Pressure & the Rise of Childhood Anxiety
13:00 – How Parents Can Guide Without Controlling
14:20 – Simple Daily Practices to Model Emotional Self-Care
19:10 – Healing the Wounded Inner Child to Raise Authentic Kids
21:30 – The “Magical Child” & Natural Joy in Kids
👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
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📱 Connect with Lavinia: 
https://www.laviniabrown.com 
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew: 
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

Why do I keep ending up with the same type of partner? Why does betrayal hurt this much?
Healing after betrayal isn’t just about letting go of what happened, it’s about understanding why the same patterns keep repeating. In this episode, we break down the deeper emotional and psychological layers behind betrayal, including attachment wounds, trauma bonds, and the unconscious beliefs that shape who we choose and why we stay.
We explore why betrayal hurts so deeply, how childhood experiences influence our adult relationships, and why ignoring red flags becomes a familiar pattern. You’ll learn how to recognise the root of your pain, where your anger and resentment come from, and how to finally take back your emotional power without blaming yourself. Whether you’re healing from deception, infidelity, emotional neglect, or the collapse of trust, this episode guides you toward the inner work needed to break the cycle!
00:00 – What Betrayal Really Means & Why It Hurts
04:00 – Types of Betrayal: Lies, Secrets, Addictions & Broken Values
06:42 – Why We Ignore Red Flags & Repeat the Same Patterns
13:12 – Childhood Wounds and Attachment Trauma
17:24 – Attracting Dysfunctional People & Repeating Cycles
19:48 – Healing Betrayal Inside a Relationship vs. Walking Away
👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
– 
📱 Connect with Lavinia: 
https://www.laviniabrown.com 
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew: 
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

How do rites of passage shape women’s lives? In this episode, midwife, teacher, and feminine wisdom keeper Jane Hardwicke Collings joins Lavinia Brown to explore how menstrual shame, birth trauma, and menopause have shaped women’s identities for generations, and how we can reclaim these rites of passage as sources of power, not pain.
Learn what really happens when we don’t honor our transitions — from menarche (first period) to motherhood and menopause — and how these experiences silently teach us what our culture believes about women’s worth. Jane shares her life’s work guiding women to heal the wounded feminine, reclaim birth as ceremony, and restore connection to the body’s cycles as a pathway to freedom, wholeness, and intergenerational healing.
00:00 – Intro
02:00 – Why Rites of Passage Matter for Women and Men
06:00 – Menstrual Shame & Supporting Our Daughters
12:30 – Birth as Rite of Passage and Emotional Teacher
25:00 – The Wounded Sisterhood and How Patriarchy Divides Women
👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
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📱 Connect with Jane: 
www.janehardwickecollings.com
www.schoolofshamanicwomancraft.com
Instagram - @janehardwickecollings
Facebook - ‘Jane Hardwicke Collings’
Spinning Wheels App (iPhone): https://apps.apple.com/us/app/spinning-wheels/id1540698472?platform=iphone
Spinning Wheels App (Android): https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=au.com.cocreations.moonsong&hl=en
'Dear Dad' blog: https://janehardwickecollings.com/dear-dad-an-open-letter-to-men-with-a-daughter-approaching-her-menarche-first-period/
📱 Connect with Lavinia: 
https://www.laviniabrown.com 
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
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No matter how much you achieve, there’s a quiet voice saying you’re not enough. In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew unpack the hidden roots of toxic shame, what it is, how it forms in childhood, and practical steps to begin healing today.
You’ll learn how toxic shame forms in childhood through criticism, emotional neglect, or the belief that love must be earned, and how it turns into patterns of self-judgment, people-pleasing, or burnout. This episode gives you practical tools to start healing toxic shame, reconnecting with your inner child, and building genuine self-compassion so you can finally feel enough, as you are.
00:00 – Intro: What Is Toxic Shame and Why It’s So Hard to Spot
01:20 – How Shame Becomes Part of Your Identity
02:45 – Childhood Roots: Where Shame Really Comes From
10:45 – The Two Faces of Shame: Anger vs Self-Destruction
13:40 – People Pleasing and Activism as Shame in Disguise
16:40 – How to Heal: From Shame to Self-Compassion
22:20 – How Subtle Shaming Shows Up in Parenting
👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast
– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
– 
📱 Connect with Lavinia: 
https://www.laviniabrown.com 
https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert 
https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert
📱 Connect with Andrew: 
https://www.andrewlynn.net
https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer